Rape: If this event has just happened to you or your loved one - go to a hospital and file a police report before doing ANY ritual or even before showering. It is very important that the police have evidence to catch these people, so they can be punished according to the law (the Goddess will deal with them spiritually). You may also require medical or psychological assistance via councelling - the best place for this is the hospital! Take a fmaily member or friend that you trust to stay with you throughout the process as it will not be easy, but it should be done.
Domestic Violence: If you are still in this situation - leave! Do not allow yourself to be treated this way for a m,oment longer, I know you feel you love this person but the best way you can be of help to them is to report their actions to the police. many abusers find it difficult to relate their actions to the injury they cause and it often takes them being charged or at least warned by the police before they will seek help. Besides that YOU deserve to be treated as the unique and precious child of the Divine that you are!
Child Abuse: If you know or suspect this may be happening, don't sit there - report it, right now, don't wait, go to the phone this instance and ring child services. Children are unable to protect themselves and it is up to each and every one of uis to protect them. They are our future!
From one survivor to another, I want you to know, no matter how dark the place may feel that you currently find yourself in, you can and will see the light again if you seek help. Help from friends, family and professionals. There are many places to seek help, and if your not sure where to go then don't be afraid to ask, If you are really at a loss as to where to sart then contact me, I will point you in the right direction.
If you seek assistance in creating a meaningful survivor ritual, or wish to have one performed (locally only) my services are available free of charge. If all you need is a friend to turn to, please don't hesitate to contact me.
May the Goddess Bless you
Lady Rohanna xoxo
Sadly many women who come to Paganism have been through traumatic experiences such as rape, domestic violence or child abuse, each of these women come to Paganism seeking a strength in the Female archetypes, In the power of a Goddess and as a means of empowering themselves towards healing and wholeness.
It is not just the past that can carry painful associations, as a High Priestess I have been approached on a number of occasions to aid in the healing process of a survivor. As a survivor myself I have seen and felt the impact these events can place upon the spirit and I have also felt the renewal that a powerfully performed ritual can have on the healing of one's spirit. The intention behind these rituals is to allow a sense of self to again emerge, a sense of control and a feeling of purity.
Within Paganism we see the body as the temple of our spirit, as a manifestation of the Divine, hwoever when we have been raped, abused or beaten down, our sense of this sacredness is removed. If we consider a physical Temple, a Church and imagine that it had been defiled by vandalism, how would it be made sacred again?
The Temple would be cleaned of all impurity (such as grafitti), it would be made whole (damage repaired), it would be Blessed and sanctified again by a Priest/ess (to make it pure) and finally the congregation would once again consider the temple to be sacred and a place to be able once more to worship.......and so this is the basis we use for these Rituals, to return the temple of the soul once again to purity.
There are many ways to perform a ritual for Reclaimation, and much of it depends upon the event which caused the defilement (rape, child abuse, domestic violence etc) and the beliefs and understanding of the survivor and their loved ones.
Obviously the more the ritual connects with the survivor the greater the impact it will have on them for healing, and while I will post a few examples here to give a greater understanding of how these Rituals may be performed, it should be noted that an individual approach MUST be taken for optimum results.
The inclusion of loved ones must also be seriously taken into some consideration as many survivors find it difficult to be able to speak of the abuse, where possible the loved ones SHOULD be involved, however it is vitally important that the survivor has the final say on who attends the ritual and in what capacity they are involved. In fact the survivor should if comfortable take a large role in the development their own ritual as this will aid them not only in understanding the process but also in the effect the ritual will have.
Some survivors find a ritual that includes friends they have made via councelling or support groups to be very beneficial as they feel they are surrounded by those who understand and are able to share in the healing process with them, as they already have bond between the, this can increase the powerful effect of a Reclaiming ritual, but can also, in some circumstance, created a codependancy that may not be beneficial to healing, in my experiences however the benefits far outweigh the difficulties.
As a Matter of your Personal AUTHORITY, You Have the Right ...
For the Preservation of your Personal BOUNDARIES, You Have the Right ...
In the Sphere of your Personal COMMUNICATION, You Have the Right ...
Specific to the DOMAIN of Healing, In regards to your chosen Therapy, You Have the Right ...
|After Silence - http://www.aftersilence.org/ |
A non-profit organization, message board and chat room for rape, sexual abuse, and sexual assault survivors.
| ||t Happened to Alexa Foundation - http://www.ithappenedtoalexa.org |
A resource for victims of sexual assault to receive money to ease the burden of attending a criminal trial.
|Pandora's Aquarium - http://www.pandys.org/ |
Provides a message board and chat room for survivors and their supporters.
|Survivors UK - http://www.survivorsuk.org/ |
Provides information, support and counselling for men who have been raped or sexually abused.
|National Association for People Abused in Childhood ( NAPAC) - http://www.napac.org.uk/ |
NAPAC is a registered charity, which has been set up as a result of a key recommendation by the National Commission of Inquiry into the Prevention of Child Abuse.
|Adult Survivors of Child Abuse - http://www.ascasupport.org/ |
Provides information, materials and on-line e-meeting for Individual and group support program for adult survivors of physical, sexual or emotional child abuse or neglect.
|Generation Five - http://www.generationfive.org |
A movement to end child sexual abuse in five generations through survivor leadership, community organization and public action.
|Dancing In The Darkness - http://www.dancinginthedarkness.com/ |
Help and support for survivors of rape and sexual abuse. A safe place to share stories, hope and courage.
|The Survivors Forum - http://eyecatchers.com/survivors/ |
This site offers chat rooms, forums and other resources for survivors of sexual abuse.
|The Silver Braid Survivors of Sexual Exploitation - http://www.thesilverbraid.org |
Providing helpful information to those who have been victims of sexual exploitation.
|Isurvive.org - http://www.isurvive.org |
A non-profit online community center for abuse survivors providing anonymous discussions boards, chat rooms and other resources.
|Safe Haven - http://www.safehaven-uk.org/ |
A site for survivors of sexual abuse and rape. Includes personal stories, poetry, tips, advice on coping day-to-day and an interactive message forum.
|Fort Refuge - http://www.fortrefuge.com |
Supporting community for survivers of all types of abuse including Child abuse, incest, rape, ritual abuse, psychological and verbal abuse.
|Project Hugs - http://www.projecthugs.fusiveweb.co.uk/ |
A site where people who have suffered childhood abuse can write their story for a book due to be published.
|Confronting Collusion in Churches - http://members.tripod.com/~NoColluding/ |
This site offers a source of support for survivors, church leaders and survivor advocates struggling with clergy sexual abuse, domestic violence and incest.
|Tamar's Voice - http://www.tamarsvoice.org |
This non-profit organization offers help and support for victims of sexual abuse by clergy.
|Optimystic - http://www.freewebs.com/optimystic/ |
This site is about living with optimism and faith to overcome childhood abuse.
|Safeline - http://www.safelinewarwick.co.uk/ |
This UK site provides information and help for adults who were sexually abused as children.
|Survivor Matters - http://www.survivormatters.btik.com/ |
Information and support forum for any survivors of any type of abuse. Created by survivors for survivors.
|My Painful Smiles - http://freewebs.com/mypainfulsmiles |
A site to help the healing of childhood sexual abuse. A place for families to learn what the victims are going through.
|The Hope of Survivors - http://www.thehopeofsurvivors.com |
Provides support, hope and encouragement for victims of clergy sexual abuse and misconduct.
|Kingdom Abuse Survivors Project - http://www.kasp.org.uk |
A resource for survivors of childhood sexual abuse in the form of forums, chat rooms, help and advice.
|Whitedoves Nest - http://www.whitedovesnest.com |
A site dedicated to sexual abuse survivors and their supporters. Share your story, poetry, art, and tips on recovery.
|The BirdSong Organization - http://members.tripod.com/birdsongorg/ |
A NYC based non-profit self-help group for female incest survivors offering a variety of support services including regular weekly meetings.
|Angels In The Night - http://angelsinnight.org |
Support site for children of sexual abuse. Offering schudeled and moderated chats, tips and other resources.
|Survivor's Personal Healing Journey - http://www.thecpac.com/welcome.html |
A survivor and publisher shares her stories of surviving sexual abuse.
|Journey to Healing - http://www.myjourney.homestead.com |
Offers help and healing for sexual abuse, incest and rape victims.
|Taking Back Control - http://www.taking-back-control.com |
A resource and message board for sexual assault survivors.
|Survivors Can Thrive - http://www.survivorscanthrive.com |
Meditations, resources and tips for sexual abuse survivors.
|Peaceful Haven - http://www.angelfire.com/super2/p_bhaskar/ |
A personal experience of emotional, mental and sexual abuse.
|Survive - http://www.survive-northyorks.org.uk |
Survive is a registered voluntary organization that provides support and help to survivors of child sexual abuse.
|Jenny's Child Abuse Survivor Support - http://www.angelfire.com/mn2/Abuse/index.html |
Jenny shares her story and poetry and offers support to fellow survivors.
|Chasing The Wind - http://www.angelfire.com/ky3/chasingthewind/ |
Poetry on sexual and physical abuse by a proud survivor.
|Inscriptions of Hope - http://inscriptionsofhope.homestead.com/homepage.html |
Newsletter of writings from survivors of childhood abuse.
|Becoming Gold - http://becominggold.inc5.com |
Virtual support network for survivors of childhood sexual abuse, that encourages balance to the healing process through creativity, education and support.
|Survivors Sanctuary - http://wearesurvivors.tripod.com |
A safe place of support and resources for survivors of abuse, sexual, mental or physical. Everyone is welcome regardless of gender.
|Art of Healing - http://www.nwfirefly.com/ |
Established artist, Linda Ness, shares her many paintings about her journey of recovery.
| ||Survivors Chat - http://www.survivorschat.com/ |
A support site, chat rooms, and resources for survivors of rape, incest, sexual abuse, or SRA.
|Healing from Abuse - http://www.freewebs.com/healingabuse/ |
This site seeks to address the unique issues of the emotionally, physically, and sexually abused. Chatroom, helpful links, book recommendations, support groups, and Healing Steps,and more are included in the healing journey.
|Survivors Safe House - http://angelfire.com/sc3/survivours |
A safe and secure site for survivors and victims of sexual abuse regardless of age or gender.
|My Twisted Sukha - http://theweepers.tripod.com |
This site deals with the effects of sexual abuse by a female perpetrator.
|Askios - http://members.tripod.com/askios-ivil/ |
Self-help group for women survivors of incest providing online information and support via website, message board and email.
|S.H.E. Survivors Helping Each Other - http://www.sheuk.org |
Self help based charity for women survivors of childhood sexual abuse encourages a creative approach to healing and to promote public education and awareness.
|The Black Sheep Chronicles - http://black_sheep3.tripod.com/index.htm |
Adult incest survivor's experiences with the aftermath of incest and how and why it affected her relationships with her entire family.
|Pagan Survivors of Sexual Assault - http://groups.yahoo.com/group/psosa/ |
A Yahoo! group for membership to pagans, witches, and wiccan wanderers who are survivors of sexual assault or are friends and family members of pagan survivors of sexual assault.
|Encouragement for Childhood Sexual Abuse Survivors - http://members.fortunecity.com/julieann3/childhoodsexualabusesurvivors |
A site for those who have been sexually abused.
|I Am A Survivor Not A Victim - http://home.earthlink.net/~printser/ |
A survivor shares her story of sexual abuse.
|Healing Broken Angels - http://www.freewebs.com/healingbrokenangels/ |
Information and help for survivors of sexual assault and rape.
|Jane Rowan - http://www.janerowan.com |
Jane shares her experience of healing from childhood sexual abuse.
|Healing Minds - http://www.freewebs.com/healingminds/ |
A site dedicated to survivors of abuse and sexual assault.
|After Silence: Rape and My Journey Back - http://www.aftersilence-bynvraine.net |
Exploring attitudes toward rape and its survivors, and the process of recovery from trauma.
|Swampy's Passions - http://www.pinn.net/~swampy/passionindex.html |
A story of one woman's survival of sexual abuse.
|Recovery - http://recovery.fabglitter.org |
Short, original essays about all aspects of recovery from childhood abuse.
|Healing Wounds - http://s14.invisionfree.com/Healing_Wounds/index.php |
Healing Wounds is a safe haven dedicated to survivors, a forum to talk about their trauma's and to heal.
|Share Your Survival Story - http://bronbretag.tripod.com/shareyoursurvivalstory/ |
A web site where people can share their own personal stories of survival. Includes helpful links and other resources.
|Echoes - http://members.tripod.com/echo_chartre-ivil/echoes/ |
Created for survivors of rape and sexual abuse. Includes a personal story, articles, poems, and links.
|Pressing On... - http://members.tripod.com/Melody4Christ/index.htm |
A site dedicated to the survivors of sexual abuse and incest. Provides practical info about sexual abuse, self-injury, eating disorders, quotes and fun links to nurture the child within.
|Netter's Place - Abuse Survivor Links - http://www.angelfire.com/poetry/nettersplace/index.html |
Offers links to different sites for abuse survivors seeking support and self help.
|Prysmstar - http://www.angelfire.com/wi2/prysmstar/ |
Survivor's story, message board, poetry and links to other resources.
|Aching Heart - http://www.angelfire.com/journal/achingheart/ |
A resource for women survivors of sexual abuse and incest.
|HEAL (Helping Everyone Abused Live) - http://beehive.thisisessex.co.uk/HEAL |
Offers support and self help for adult survivors of childhood abuse.